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79. Why Confidence Comes After Action, Not Before and What to Do When You Don’t Feel Ready
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Most people believe confidence comes first and action follows. In this episode, Chad Kerby and Francis Jones challenge that belief and break down why it’s backwards.

Through a powerful conversation on learned helplessness, they explore why so many capable, driven people feel stuck not because they’re lazy or unmotivated, but because repeated setbacks have taught them that effort won’t matter. When you don’t believe your actions will change the outcome, confidence disappears and inaction takes over.

Chad and Francis unpack how confidence is actually built through action, not waiting to feel ready. They discuss how uncertainty, fear, and lack of clarity create paralysis, and why most people don’t need more motivation they need a clear next step and proof that their effort matters.

This episode offers practical insights on how to break the cycle of learned helplessness, rebuild momentum, and take ownership even when you don’t feel confident yet. If you’ve ever felt stuck, hesitant, or unsure of your next move, this conversation will help you reconnect effort to results and start moving forward again.

You’re not unmotivated you just don’t know what to do yet, or you don’t believe you can do it.

This episode shows you how to change that.